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How to stop comparing yourself to others
In the current moment, with the omnipresence of social media, I know it’s easy to fall into the comparison game.
Today, more than ever, you have a window into specific moments in the lives of the people you follow. In this new article I share with you some tips to avoid the unhealthy side of this practice.
Each person is unique
Comparison can be healthy if done with self-respect. It can help you set goals or implement additional efforts in a specific area of your life. If, however, you fall into a mindset where you use it to know if you are “normal” or to feel accepted by others, I invite you to take a step back to find the cause.
Don’t forget that you are unique. Your life experiences, your qualities (and your flaws) are part of the exceptional person you are. When you compare yourself to the people around you (real or virtual), you indicate to your subconscious that you may not be enough, and this has a direct impact on your confidence and perception of your life.
A simple tip to bring focus back to your life is to keep a gratitude journal. Every day, take the time to think about at least three (3) things you are grateful for. This exercise will make you realize how green the grass is on your side too!
Don’t believe everything
On social media but also in real life, most people don’t show the behind the scenes of what they went through to achieve the success they have today.
You don’t see all the effort, failure, and behind-the-scenes work that went into the years leading up to the “So-and-so-did-it!!!” moment.
To inspire their followers, these people instead choose to expose their success, achievements and beautiful moments in their lives.
Don’t be fooled by appearances: what is shared may have been worked on for a long time to offer “perfect” content rather than reflect the reality of that day’s “bad day”!
To counteract the effects of social media on your subconscious, you can take a break from consuming different platforms. A moment spent away from this endless scrolling can help you rebuild your self-esteem and see how perfect you are just the way you are!
Do some cleaning! You have the right to unsubscribe from any account that brings you nothing or that “annoys” you more than it excites you.
Day 1 VS Day 1,000
Every person makes choices that shape their future. I’ll give you an example from my personal journey.
Comparing your Day 1 to my Day 1000 for example, you may feel completely overwhelmed.
If you are a person who has now started your Personal Growth journey, it will be natural to fall into traps or obstacles. You have to gain experience!
I personally chose to say yes to an opportunity that presented itself to me in 2011 and from there I began my journey into Personal Growth. Since then I have had experiences and learned things that allow me to be where I am.
Instead of comparing your journey to that of someone who has been going for several years, use their success to build momentum. Read his book, listen to his videos, ask his questions, learn from the mistakes he made. Think of this person as the one who paved the way for you by removing the large branches that would otherwise prevent you from moving forward as quickly.
In any case, the only person you should deal with is you. Are you better than yesterday? How do you apply what you’ve learned in your daily life to grow, evolve, and become a better version of yourself?
